There was no minister leading the service. Unfortunately, this is how funeral services are held for people on disability, who cannot afford to bury themselves. There's more to be said about this, but this entry is not the time.
There were more people in attendance than what I expected. My eldest daughter B, had an appointment she couldn't reschedule and wasn't able to attend, but my youngest daughter P, attended. Everyone there knew and loved Wanda.
Wanda's worker M, who cared for her on a daily basis introduced me. After I sang Twila Paris' song, Not Forgotten (see yesterday's entry for song and lyrics), I gave the eulogy. Here's what I said:
Eulogy for Wanda M. June 2, 2011 Anderson Funeral Home
When I first met Wanda, it was because we were room mates at the hospital. We were each recovering from having had surgery.
During conversation with her and with her Mom, we realized that we lived quite close to each other. Something else I realized after hearing Wanda's story of her life, was that God had brought us together for a reason.
Some people seem to suffer more in life than others. We seemed to be able to relate concerning this issue, but there were some differences.
While I had my Lord, Jesus Christ in my life, Wanda had some problems coping with life's trials. While no one enjoys having any kind of life trial, I recognized that Wanda had experienced some of the most difficult trials to overcome.
Truly, I don't need to discuss any details of the trials Wanda had experienced in her life. It's enough to say that I wouldn't wish any of them on my worst enemy. However, I will say that one especially was so terrorizing, that she just seemed to have trouble recovering from it.
I believed then, and I still believe today, that God brought us together, so I could be a support and a friend to Wanda; and she to me. God tells us in Ecclesiates 4:9-10, "Two [are] better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him [that is] alone when he falleth; for [he hath] not another to help him up."
Wanda was a good friend to all who knew her. She was a loving woman. She was kind. She was the person who would truly give you the shirt off her back, if she thought you needed it. You wouldn't even have to ask.
Wanda appreciated those who loved her. I will miss receiving cards from her in the mail, for my birthday. I will miss the good times we shared, both just she and I, and with her Mom, when Helen was alive.
Wanda was a good friend to me. I loved her and tried to be a good friend to her. Whenever we would meet or talk by telephone, either she or I would bring up the topic of God. You might think it was always me doing this, but if you thought this you would be wrong. Sometimes Wanda brought up the subject, too.
Many times, I reassured Wanda that even though she felt this way, God had not forgotten her. I reminded her that Jesus loved her, always.
Usually, Wanda would remind me that although she believed in God and in Jesus, she didn't think that they would look kindly upon her, for she wasn't what she called a 'religious' person and didn't often go to church. In response, I would remind her that religion doesn't get people into heaven. That the only way to heaven is by trusting or believing on the Lord, Jesus Christ.
John 14:6 tells us, "Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me."
John 11:25 says, "Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live:"
Of course, John 3:16 tells us, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life."
John 10:9 says, "I am the door: by me if any man enter in, he shall be saved, and shall go in and out, and find pasture."
We know from these verses and more importantly, Wanda knew from these verses that in order to spend eternity in heaven with God, with Jesus, she needed to believe upon the work that Jesus did at the cross, when He died for the sin of the world, of all who would believe. When He died for her sin.
She also heard me remind her of Romans 8:38-39, "For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
With Wanda's health problems and being on various medications, it wouldn't be simple for any one of us to determine if she truly was trusting in Jesus, but I believe she was, because she told me so. I am trusting God for this, so that one day I will see her in heaven, when God calls me home.
I urge you, that if you don't know Jesus today, as your Saviour, please speak with me after Wanda's life celebration is completed, for as we found out when Wanda died at a fairly young age and unexpectedly, that we are not guaranteed tomorrow.
"Today is the day of Salvation." "Believe on the Lord, Jesus Christ and you shall be saved."
At the end of the eulogy, I began to sing Amazing Grace; many in attendance joined in. It was a blessing.
Afterwards, Wanda's friend B spoke about her, also. He was the person who found her and called Wanda's worker M, when he couldn't wake her.
Then M thanked everyone for coming and asked me to close with The Lord's Prayer.
Until next time...
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