Saturday, May 14, 2011


Recently, I once again had a conversation with a friend, regarding an important topic.

This friend is male, and lives here in Windsor, as opposed to being an on-line friend.  It's important you understand this, because then you will realize that this is an ongoing discussion with this person.  He truly is just a friend; no romantic connection!  Even so, for the sake of anonymity, I will not divulge his name.

Before I begin, I must mention that if this topic of conversation had been with a female friend, my feelings on the subject would have been the same.  There would be no difference, no matter who the person was.

This on-going discussion involves sin.  Or, at least the prospect of sin. 

Quite a while ago, my friend made a comment to me that he was looking for a romantic connection.  Of course, I laughed and made a face with a response of 'oh sure!', because that is just my personality.

All teasing aside.  This friend was serious.  He claimed further into our conversation that he was hoping to find a Christian woman and asked me if I knew of any Christian, good-looking blondes.  I laughed once again, because although this person calls himself a Christian, he shows no fruit of the spirit. 

Now, I'm not here to judge, for only God knows the condition of each of our hearts; personally, I am glad I do not need to judge anyone.  However, God did tell us to discern truth.  God did tell us that we shall know them by their fruit (Matthew 7:16).  In this case, there is only lip service, but no obedience or desire to follow God; he doesn't even attend church service anywhere, to worship God.

Still, he is my friend and I don't want you to think I think badly of him, for I don't.  I regularly remind him that if he truly loves God, he should worship Him.  That's another topic, for another time.

The only reason I wrote about this is so that you will understand where this subject is coming from and going to.

This friend claims he wants a Christian woman in his life, because he feels he can trust Christian women.  Not, because he wants a woman that truly loves God.

Now, bear with me when I say this, but my friend doesn't want to find a Christian woman, to love and be loved by and marry.  No.  Instead, he made it clear to me that he only wants a Christian woman in his life, to have a relationship with her. 

Being Christian, he feels he can trust her to be true only to him, without marriage.  Just a personal... and a physical relationship... without marriage.

My immediate thought, that I blurted out to my friend, was that if he found a Christian woman, she wouldn't want to have a physical relationship with him, without marriage.  He disagreed, letting me know that he has already met some.

I listened as he told me that he has not only met some like this, but he has had a relationship with a few. 

I quickly noticed there was no remorse for the sin he had just admitted to, in his life.  No repentance.  No desire to be right with God, even after further discussion on this subject.

I recalled Proverbs 14:12, which tells us, "There is a way which seems right to a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death."  It seemed to me this was fitting for this situation and told him so.

Any/all of my comments were just scoffed at.

It amazed, but wasn't shocking to me that he felt this way, for I know many people who feel this way.  That God will just tolerate their sin, because He should do so, if He loves them.

Are you getting the drift of what I will be writing about?  Hopefully, so. 

In any case, I must write more about this tomorrow, for I am not able to continue, today.