I would like to thank each of you for bearing with me while I've been discussing the issues that pertain to a male friend of mine, who wants a relationship with a Christian woman, but wants sex without marriage.
If you've been reading, you'll know that we discussed sin and how God cannot look upon sin. Then, we discussed how the blood of Jesus covers our sin so God cannot see our sin, once we belong to Him. We discussed how we all stumble and fall into sin from time to time. Then, obedience, repentance and forgiveness were issues that pertained. Yesterday, we discussed love.
That leads us to the last issue I can think of that pertains to our discussions. Is my friend saved, or is he not?
I am sure that some people, especially those who are unsaved, who are not trusting in Jesus, might think my friend is not saved.
It's been my experience that most people who are not saved think that if we are 'religious' we should be perfect. Since what my friend hopes to do isn't a sign of perfection, I could hazard a guess that some may think he is not saved.
Is this true, though? If you've read recent entries, you may have read that once we are in the palm of God's hand, we can never be removed. While some might think there are only two (2) choices: saved or not. I believe there are three (3) scenerios:
1) He is saved; or
2) He is not saved; or
3) He is saved, but out of fellowship.
It is my opinion that if someone is truly saved, without being out of fellowship, they would not ever make a statement like that, or with reference to my friend, I believe he would not have remarked that he hopes to find a woman willing to sin, with him. How can I say this? Well, God's Word does tell us to discern truth, based on the Bible.
God told us in Matthew 7:16, "You shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles?" Proverbs 20:11 tells, "Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure and right." There are other verses that support what I have said; feel free to check them out for yourself. Please realize, I am not saying he is not saved.
It is possible my friend is not saved, based upon those very same verses I just quoted, above. Is there fruit of the spirit? Is there a desire in my friend's life to not sin, to honour God, our Father? Some might say, 'no'.
Then, comes the last scenario, the one where my friend may be saved, but out of fellowship. After all, we know that even the saved fall into sin from time to time. We don't lose our salvation, when we fall into sin. However, we are not supposed to intentionally sin, ever. Certainly not, if we are saved.
Phew! Am I ever glad that only God can judge this. It is not for me, or for you to judge. I am glad I don't have to judge this situation, for I truly wouldn't want to make this judgement.
However, I am able to discern and let you know my thoughts on this subject.
In my opinion, from what I can tell, it appears my friend may be a saved person. Why? Because, I cannot imagine an unsaved person, ever claiming they are saved. Ever. Never, have I ever heard this, before. Never. Most unsaved people consider us saved people as religious fanatics. He claims to be saved.
All I can say is that if my friend is saved and out of fellowship, he needs to confess his sin, repent and turn back to God.
If my friend is not saved, certainly he needs to come to salvation.
How? John 14:6 tells us, "Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man comes to the Father, but by me." John 1:14 says, "The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the One and Only, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth."
As you just read, trusting or believing in Jesus is the only way way to God. So, if my friend isn't yet saved, he needs to come to Christ. Will he be guaranteed salvation?
If my friend's heart is true and right, and if he is truly coming to Christ and not just making lip service, he will be saved. Acts 16: 31 makes it clear, "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you shall be saved, and your house."
Is my friend the only person who needs to decide where they fit in the 1, 2 or 3 scenario discussed, today? No. We all must do this. Hopefully, if you haven't already trusted in Jesus for your salvation, you will do so, today. We are not guaranteed tomorrow; it may be too late. Please do so, today.
So, is my friend saved, or not saved? Only God knows for sure, for He is the only one who knows the true condition of my friend's heart.
Until next time...
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