Yesterday was Valentine's Day. As I do every year, I sent out an e-mail wishing friends Happy Valentine's Day.
Some replied with words of encouragement, like one friend who hoped I had an, "easy day". Another friend responded saying, "Thanks Lynn but I'm just glad it's over as it is just another reminder that I am not the kind of woman men go out of there way for. Reality bites......Hope yours was better.."
Well, like my friend who was glad the day was over, I was glad I made it through the day, too.
My day wasn't much better than my friend's, actually. Oh, nothing was seriously wrong, except that I understand how she felt, considering some of us don't have anyone to love or be loved by, to share the day with. Once you've had someone in your life to love and be loved by, it's difficult to no longer have it.
Even though Valentine's day is a heartbreaking time for some of us, I am glad that I celebrate the day. Usually, I send out Valentine cards; this year, I didn't. Usually, I give out candy hearts; this year, I didn't. Not for as many people as I normally do. For family, I did. Celebrate Valentine's day, I mean. We celebrated it, last week, before my grandson S had his surgery.
This year, I limited my celebrating with those who are really close to me. The rest of the day and all the heartbreak it brings, I left with God, who helped me through. Thank You, Lord!
Even so, I do believe that Valentine's Day is a good time to tell those who mean a lot to us, that we care. That we love them.
When I say this, I am sure there will be some who will think badly of me, for telling others I love them, but this is what I believe is right to do.
In the New Testament, Jesus said in Matthew 22:37-39, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: You shall love your neighbour as yourself."
Truly, I do not see anything wrong with telling those I care for, that I love them. I do this, regularly.
Maybe it is because when I attended Celebrate Recovery (I needed support, when I was going through the hell of life, when Gordon was sick), I got used to hearing my friends tell me they loved me. I learned to respond in kind, to those I am really close to, to those I love. Because I do; love them I mean.
Of course, some people might think it is wrong, because maybe they take hearing the words 'I love you', out of context. Or, maybe they think there is some underlying motive, or desire that is going unsaid. After all, there is nothing wrong with loving someone. Unless of course, it is in a sinful way.
Personally, I am not about to become involved in any sin. However, if you are not looking to invite sin into your life, there's no reason to not 'love' someone.
No. I am not someone who wants to do anything that would upset my God. Unfortunately, not everyone loves me, because I am like this. Some friends think it is okay to walk the tightrope of life, on the edge of sin. But, I am not like that. Maybe at one time in my life, but not now.
So, I'll just carry on, being me. I will show my love to others and tell them I love them. I won't keep my love hidden under a basket, but I will let my love and light shine. Hopefully, you will, too. After all, every heart craves love.
Hopefully, you'll be like me and not keep your love hidden.
That reminds me. There is a song I really enjoy that speaks of love being hidden away. I hope you'll enjoy Josh Groban's Hidden Away:
Until next time...
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